What you can’t say is doing most of the talking

Psychoanalytic, relational therapy for adults who want to understand themselves better, and are willing to take their time doing it.

A practice in noticing what you already know but haven’t admitted yet

I’m Claire — a licensed marriage and family therapist working virtually with adults across California. My practice is psychoanalytically informed and deeply relational, which is a long way of saying: we’ll spend real time with what’s actually going on, and we’ll do it together.

A little about how I work, and who I am

I trained in long-term, depth-oriented therapy because I believe most of what makes us miserable is older, stranger, and more interesting than the language we usually have for it. I’m not allergic to a coping skill — I’ve got a bunch of those if you need them— I just think we can aim higher than coping. The goal, as I see it, is becoming less of a stranger to yourself.

Therapy is serious business, but working with me you'll also gain a sassy older sister like figure in your life who will tell you bluntly what she thinks of your haircut, if you ask. A sassy older sister who you pay, know nothing about, and only see once or twice a week, of course.

Some of what we might make space for

—Identity, coming out, and gender transition

—Sex, desire, and the body

—Trauma, shame and dissociation

—Grief, including queer and chosen-family grief

—Becoming a parent, or deciding not to

—Non-monogamy and relationship structures

—Family-of-origin patterns

—Career, creative blocks, and ambition

—Anxiety, depression, and “something feels off”

—Your weirdest, secret dream

Let’s talk